Hugs, Griffi-ji.  My father just passed a way (July 14th) and we're diving up his accumulated possessions. But since my full sibs and I were rather estranged from him, we really don't mind that the brothers from his second wife get the vast majority.  I just want a polished stone egg of his and the rest can go to the half sibs, no skin off my nose.

I hope you recover from your epic transition.

There is definitely a lot of stress relief once everything is done.  My brother and I did Dad's house in July of last year, it took us nearly 2 weeks to get everything out, and yes, it was hot.  On a positive note, I got notice from the IRS that Dad's final income tax return has been processed and approved, and the check will be mailed out this week.  I understand the IRS is adding some interest due to the delays caused by their office being shut down.  As soon as I get the check and deposit it, I can tell the lawyer, and we can finish the probate and divide the money to the heirs. 

We tried to get our Dad to change his will over to a living revocable trust, but he refused and wouldn't discuss it.  Mainly because he didn't understand it, and was afraid that it would end up being more of a hassle for us than it really was.  I spoke with an estate lawyer last winter and set up my own estate as a trust.  Cost a bit of money, but it's a one-time fee, and it encompassed my house, my car, all of my financial assets, and had a healthcare POA, Living Will, and my will, all in one neat package.  My brother will have access to all of that if he needs it when he needs it, but it takes a big burden off my shoulders, because I have no direct descendants of my own, so the estate will be equally divided among my nieces and nephews. 

By putting all your stuff into a revocable trust you maintain control over what you own and your heirs avoid probate when you die.  Probate can take forever.